Should the state grant/register/define marriages? Why or why not?
What level of involvement should the state be in regards to marriages?
Should the state be involved in marriages?
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Post #2
The state should not grant marriage and it should not be recognising any privileges. This has the effect of recognising a single interpretation of a cultural insituttion based on tradition and creating separate caste of citizens to which a lot of us are pressured into seeking membership.
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Post #4
Anyone. Everyone. No one. What I do not want is a cultural/religious tradition dictated by government. I don't want any benefits to marriage recognised by state. You may get married in the eyes of God, but why does it have to be recognised in the eyes of the law, with accompanying benefits? It doesn't. If it's purely ceremonial, no one can tread on anybody else's toes.Illyricum wrote:Well then, who should grant marriages?
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Post #5
The question should be: "what is the purpose of granting marriages at all?"Illyricum wrote:Well then, who should grant marriages?
If the primary purpose of granting marriages pertains to religious validation, then the government should have no part in granting marriages. If there is some other purpose, some goal, for granting marriage; that is non-religious; the argument needs to be presented, evaluated, and formed into a written policy - a written policy of just what the federal government hopes to achieve by recognizing marriages. If there is no specify goal of the government sanctioning marriage, then what is the point?
Post #6
After considering these comments (as well as your reply to Illyricum) where you mentioned that marriage should be recognized by anyone, everyone and no one. Along with commenting that marriage takes place in the eyes of God....I am left with the impression that you would believe that people should simply move in together and be boyfriend and girlfriend until death do them part. Or maybe they could find a nice Oak tree somewhere and exchange vows that only the two of them recognize, along with their God? Is this roughly how you see it?Corvus wrote:The state should not grant marriage and it should not be recognising any privileges. This has the effect of recognising a single interpretation of a cultural insituttion based on tradition and creating separate caste of citizens to which a lot of us are pressured into seeking membership.
I guess I do not understand how or why you would believe the state (or
government) needs to stay out of it. I certainly do not like the government having its nose in everything we citizens do, but we do live in a society, and when it comes to marriage, that society needs to legally recognize the union. Marriage is not just a ceremonial act created for the purpose of religious recognition. It is also to make things legal between two people.
Consider this; how would a divorce take place if the government never recognized the marriage?
Thank you for considering my perspective
Re: Should the state be involved in marriages?
Post #7If States insist upon being in the marriage business, then no preclusions should be made based upon gender or sexual orientation, else the States should eliminate all benefits associated with being a party named in a civil marriage contract.otseng wrote:Should the state grant/register/define marriages? Why or why not?
Ideally, none. Though I'm sure that once some sufficiently prestigious persons are compelled to provide damagin testimony abut their spouses, or substantial federal taxes are paid on a sufficiently extravagant anniversary gifts, many married couples will reminisce about the Good Old Days of marriage and all of its subtle, state sanctioned benefits.otseng wrote:What level of involvement should the state be in regards to marriages?
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Post #8
Kinda like myself and the very lovely msmufin.Bobby wrote:I am left with the impression that you would believe that people should simply move in together and be boyfriend and girlfriend until death do them part.

Sure. Or in a church in the company of friends and family. Or on a cruise. Or while skydiving. Or... The ceremonial and traditional aspects of marriage have nothing to do with the civil recognition and associated benefits of marriage provided by the States.Bobby wrote:Or maybe they could find a nice Oak tree somewhere and exchange vows that only the two of them recognize, along with their God? Is this roughly how you see it?
Perhaps the States should stay out of the marriage business because... uh, well, because it's really none of their damn business. Society places no limitations on adults having loving, meaningful, committed relationships, nor procreating, nor cohabitating, nor having consensual sexual encounters. Why should society (or the States) provide any benefits to those who feel it necessary or worthwhile to shore up their relationship with a marriage certificate?Bobby wrote:I guess I do not understand how or why you would believe the state (or
government) needs to stay out of it. I certainly do not like the government having its nose in everything we citizens do, but we do live in a society, and when it comes to marriage, that society needs to legally recognize the union.
What is made legal by marriage? No laws are being violated by msmufin and I cohabitating and maintaining a loving, trusting, committed, and sexual relationship. Nor does the civil contract of marriage assure that its named parties have any love, trust, commitment and/or sexual components in their personal relationship.Bobby wrote:Marriage is not just a ceremonial act created for the purpose of religious recognition. It is also to make things legal between two people.
Perhaps under the old Oak tree?Bobby wrote:Consider this; how would a divorce take place if the government never recognized the marriage?

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mrmufin
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Post #9
Mrmuffin's responses easily explain the direction I am going with this. I think I love him, but unfortunately he is already in a monogamous relationship with a woman. If he wasn't, a long period of courtship would ensue, then, naturally, he would be mine, and we can live together happily. If we don't work out, we can split up without a fuss and with a lot of tears. ::blows mrmuffin a kiss::Bobby wrote:After considering these comments (as well as your reply to Illyricum) where you mentioned that marriage should be recognized by anyone, everyone and no one. Along with commenting that marriage takes place in the eyes of God....I am left with the impression that you would believe that people should simply move in together and be boyfriend and girlfriend until death do them part. Or maybe they could find a nice Oak tree somewhere and exchange vows that only the two of them recognize, along with their God? Is this roughly how you see it?Corvus wrote:The state should not grant marriage and it should not be recognising any privileges. This has the effect of recognising a single interpretation of a cultural insituttion based on tradition and creating separate caste of citizens to which a lot of us are pressured into seeking membership.
I guess I do not understand how or why you would believe the state (or
government) needs to stay out of it. I certainly do not like the government having its nose in everything we citizens do, but we do live in a society, and when it comes to marriage, that society needs to legally recognize the union. Marriage is not just a ceremonial act created for the purpose of religious recognition. It is also to make things legal between two people.
Consider this; how would a divorce take place if the government never recognized the marriage?
In Australia we have a thing called de facto relationships. A de facto relationship is the term used to describe the relationship between a man and woman who live together as husband and wife although they are not legally married. In some circumstances the term can include same sex couples. Parental responsibilities are the same in a de facto relationship as in a marriage. A marriage is simply a contract. Most people can do without a contract in order to be in love, have children and be responsible for them.
Please explain what legal complications may arise from never having a marriage contract.
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Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.'</i>
-John Keats, Ode on a Grecian Urn.
Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.'</i>
-John Keats, Ode on a Grecian Urn.
Post #10
Not so fast; there's still plenty about me to dislike. Did I actually say monogamous?Corvus wrote:I think I love him, but unfortunately he is already in a monogamous relationship with a woman.

It's probably not a good idea to spend too much time romantacizing about highly improbable scenarios.Corvus wrote:If he wasn't, a long period of courtship would ensue, then, naturally, he would be mine, and we can live together happily. If we don't work out, we can split up without a fuss and with a lot of tears. ::blows mrmuffin a kiss::

In the US, some of the States recognize a similar status, known as "common law" marriage. Apart from not being recognized by all the States, I'm uncertain about the other legal aspects of common law marriages, e.g. compulsory witness testimony, tax filing, hospital visitation, power of attorney, etc. I do know that I live in a State where common law marriages are not recognized.Corvus wrote:In Australia we have a thing called de facto relationships. A de facto relationship is the term used to describe the relationship between a man and woman who live together as husband and wife although they are not legally married. In some circumstances the term can include same sex couples. Parental responsibilities are the same in a de facto relationship as in a marriage.
Yep, just a contract, indeed. In our 14+ years together, the very lovely msmufin has been asked at least once (and mildly threatened another time) for her hand in marriage, all for purely economic reasons. Unlike most American women, She is dead set against being married. Love, trust and commitment are states of mind, not a State sanctions.Corvus wrote:A marriage is simply a contract. Most people can do without a contract in order to be in love, have children and be responsible for them.
Regards,
mrmufin
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