There is no rational reason to stop same sex marriage

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There is no rational reason to stop same sex marriage

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jgh7 wrote:It's hard for me to view homosexuality as that bad of a thing if someone is born to be that way. I could not judge them against it if they were born that way.
Thought Criminal wrote:Ok, but what if it turns out to be entirely a matter of choice? Would you judge them against it then? If so, what harm, to others or themselves, would you invoke?
Homosexuality

Point 1) If biological it is something that God created and thus we should not be punished for it since it is natural.

Point 2) That being even if it is still a sin (or not biological) the people who commit acts of homosexuality are fully allowed (by God) to commit as many sins as they like. God gave us the freedom of choice to commit sins or to chose to follow him how we like.

Point 3) Also since not everyone believes there is an afterlife we have no reason to stop them from committing these "sins" if they do not hurt anyone. The only person they hurt is themselves (according to theists) because they will then go to Hell, a place that they do not even believe exists.


There is no rational reason for us to stop same sex marriage.
Throughout history ignorant and oppressive people have stopped certain minorities from gaining certain rights but we see a trend that these minorities are gradually allowed these rights.

To be honest I'm surprised we still oppress homosexuals and bisexuals. How archaic.

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Homicidal_Cherry53 wrote:And same-sex marriage isn't recognize in 48 U.S. states and every country worldwide, other than Belgium, Norway, South Africa, Canada, The Netherlands, and Spain.
Same sex marriage is also allowed here in New Zealand. The government made it legal a couple of years ago. No vote was done on it though.

Society and its morals evolve and will continue to evolve. The bible however remains the same and just requires more and more apologetics and claims of "metaphors" and "symbolism" to justify it.

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Re: There is no rational reason to stop same sex marriage

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Word_Swordsman wrote:.
Let me dispel the possibility of God having anything to do with creating homosexuality in a person.
That isn't a magic incantation you just made there. Dispelling something is going to take a lot more than just saying that a claim is wrong and then quoting a few scriptures that most Christians can't agree on and that unbelievers don't see as authorative (especially when they see what science is proving).

Word_Swordsman wrote:
I won't rule out secular possibilities, such as genetic malfunctions, which of course can't logically be assigned to an act of God.
These scriptures strongly suggest any trait we are born with, positive and negative are a result of God:

Psa 139:13
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.

Exodus 4:11
And the LORD said unto him, Who hath made man's mouth? or who maketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? have not I the LORD?

John 9: 1-3
And as Jesus passed by, he saw a man which was blind from his birth. And his disciples asked him, saying, Master, who did sin, this man, or his parents, that he was born blind? Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him.

Even if you want to ignore that last scripture there and claim for someone to be born homosexual it is a result of the sin of Adam and Eve, God allowed it to happen. It was his system that he set in place to allow people to be born with abnomalities. So no matter what way you look at it, God is still very responsible.

Society and its morals evolve and will continue to evolve. The bible however remains the same and just requires more and more apologetics and claims of "metaphors" and "symbolism" to justify it.

Prayer is like rubbing an old bottle and hoping that a genie will pop out and grant you three wishes.

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Furrowed Brow wrote:I was trying to think of the rational reasons for anyone to get married let alone those of the same sex. Marriage in the UK used to be tax efficient. So a beneficial tax system would be a rational reason. Inheritance issues are also another rational reason. I guess there are probably various other financial reasons that make marriage the rational option.
Why is a desire for more money any more rational than a desire to be married?
Furrowed Brow wrote:Then there is the statistical proof that children from stable marriages do better at school etc. So that would be a rational reason for getting married and staying married until the kids grow up.
I'd say that a desire to procreate, or rear children is no more or less rational than a desire to enter an oath regarding one's romantic intentions.
Furrowed Brow wrote:I think gay couples have previously face problems if one partner becomes say serioulsy ill. In the past they have found that decision regarding their life partners welfare passed to their family. Even if say they have lived with their partner for decades they faced being cut out of the deicsion making loop because they were not deemed next of kin. So their are some practical reasons why same sex marrige is rational.
I have no intention of opposing the marriages of homosexuals. I see no reason why they shouldn't be allowed to marry.
On the other hand, I would advise any couple of any sexual orientation to avoid marraige if they list finances as a primary reason. That sounds like a recipe for pain to me.
Furrowed Brow wrote:On the whole I think very few of the married people I know got married for rational reasons.
I'd argue that one's personal satisfaction is as rational a reason as there is for anything that humans do. If being married makes me happier than a tax break does, wouldn't it be the more rational reason to get married?
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Sjoerd wrote:No, he never drew any conclusion, he merely described his sentiments.
He seemed to conclude that gays should not be allowed to marry and that it is ok for him to vote in this direction based solely on prejudices.
I never said that you should approve or ignore his statements. There are more options available than just approve, ignore, or condemn. I will explain again: If people admit their biases, praising them for doing so might enable you to talk them out of it. A harsh response will end the dialogue and lets the other person walk away with his prejudices intact. If your goal is to reduce prejudices, you will have acted irrationally. Under which kind of consequentialism you file this is irrelevant.
He admitted to his bias but did not admit it was wrong or say that he planned to ignore it. I'm not particularly worried if he considers my response harsh. If anything, my honesty might help him understand the seriousness of his error. I suppose it might also offend him and make him dislike me, but that's not important.

My point about act vs. rule consequentialism is that the latter justifies a general policy of speaking up when people make bigoted statements, unless we have good reason to believe that this specific act would be harmful. This is the case even when the cost of sticking up for equality is the degradation of the purely optional relationship. So, for example, I will not bite my tongue in order to maintain a friendship with a bigot. It's a matter of priorities.
I assume that your motives in this thread are to reduce biases and prejudices. Since you are a rational person, I assume that you do this in the most rational way. If either of these assumptions is false, please say so.
Not really. I can only convince reasonable people, so my job is to explain why someone is wrong, not use my Jedi powers to trick them into believing the truth. I'm not a psychiatrist who's going to manipulate them into being a better person.

Finally, I'm not convinced that them walking away is necessarily a bad thing. Rational people stick around and admit to their error. The irrational argue endlessly, identifying themselves with their error until correcting it requires an act of humility that is beyond most people. Better that they just walk away, allowing the arguments they cannot defeat to sink in and increase their cognitive dissonance until the moment their irrational belief collapses under its own weight.
There is nothing uncivil with stating biases and sentiments in a descriptive way. This is done in psychology and social sciences all the time if they are the subject of study. Usually the researcher describes them in other people rather than himself, but this is irrelevant.
Stating biases in a normative way, promoting them or denying that they are biases, is a different matter, and is indeed uncivil and offending. However, OnceConvinced has never stated his biases that way.
For the reasons stated above, I disagree.

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Re: There is no rational reason to stop same sex marriage

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OnceConvinced wrote:
Word_Swordsman wrote:.
Let me dispel the possibility of God having anything to do with creating homosexuality in a person.
OnceConvinced wrote:That isn't a magic incantation you just made there. Dispelling something is going to take a lot more than just saying that a claim is wrong and then quoting a few scriptures that most Christians can't agree on and that unbelievers don't see as authorative (especially when they see what science is proving).
It doesn't matter how many Christians agree or disagree over commands in the Bible. They are still in there and quite clearly laid out for anyone capable of reading comprehension to learn what God says about some human actions. God requires all to agree with Him, while it is never a matter of God changing His mind to agree with some recent social aberration. Otherwise unbelievers (those disagreeing) are subject to the curses attached to commandments, especially those labeled "abomination". What was an abomination still is. God is not nor ever will be the author of confusion regardless of passions of people.
Word_Swordsman wrote:
I won't rule out secular possibilities, such as genetic malfunctions, which of course can't logically be assigned to an act of God.
OnceConvinced wrote:These scriptures strongly suggest any trait we are born with, positive and negative are a result of God:

Psa 139:13
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.

Exodus 4:11
And the LORD said unto him, Who hath made man's mouth? or who maketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? have not I the LORD?

John 9: 1-3
And as Jesus passed by, he saw a man which was blind from his birth. And his disciples asked him, saying, Master, who did sin, this man, or his parents, that he was born blind? Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him.

Even if you want to ignore that last scripture there and claim for someone to be born homosexual it is a result of the sin of Adam and Eve, God allowed it to happen. It was his system that he set in place to allow people to be born with abnomalities. So no matter what way you look at it, God is still very responsible.
God doesn't declare a sin an abomination with a mighty curse on it then turn around and create a human prone from birth to sin an abomination. Yes, God does allow some people to be born with physical and mental handicaps. I would agree that a person wanting to be homosexual does so sometimes from a position of mental handicap. But the scriptures also teach God allows some to be born with deficiencies with the aim of God getting glory through their healing. We now know people can damage their bodies through drugs and poisons, setting up heavy odds of a birth defect. God allows the sins against our bodies, we being heirs of dominion on earth, but doesn't promise all affected humans will be healed. Even Jesus failed to heal many because of unbelief.

Note that the man in your reference in John 9 was healed of his birth defect.

Ex 4:11 had to do with Moses complaining he didn't have a strong speech ability. God was simply telling Moses He could use it anyway, being creator of mouths, regardless of condition of the mouth.

Look at that Psalm in greater context. Psalm 139:13-16 "For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb. [14] I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. [15] My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. [16] Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them."

Note that the human in a womb is not a result of a direct act of creation. The fetus is made via a complex set of biological stages. However, they are guided (held) by God who doesn't recreate existing genes to assure a perfect infant. God's works are the processes He set in motion for humans to reproduce without need of creating another human.

God is not responsible for destructive behaviors in people. God tempts no person to sin. He sent His only begotten Son to die so that people could be delivered from sin and the sting of death.

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Thought Criminal wrote: I want to be very clear about one thing: Demanding equality is not political correctness and I will not back down on this matter. Get me banned if you can, but I'm not changing. Nothing can stop me from pointing out injustices when I see them.
Again you fail to understand my argument. I do not object against your opinion, in fact I completely agree with it. I do not say that you should see biases or injustices as anything else than what they are. But you should do what is most rational in lessening them. In some situations, pointing them out loudly may be the best strategy. In other situations, a more civil approach is mandated. Refusal to adapt your strategy is irrational. You are a consequentialist, not a deontologist or a virtue ethic. So act on it. If you get yourself banned, you will no longer be in a position to point out any injustice or irrationality on this forum. Is that rational?
It's for these reasons I didn't really want to comment in the first place. I knew there would be people like TC who would feel they have the right to stand in judgement over me. I know from the past how touchy people can get when it comes to this subject. I can also understand why the other 3 or 4 people who have voted "no" don't want to comment. Why would they if they think they were gong to be attacked and insulted?

I would be open to debating this topic if I could gaurantee people would be able to discuss this rationally. However as TC has proven, it's just not possible.

If it makes TC feel any better, I think people here do have a good point that one should not act on their prejudices. If a vote came up on this topic it would be better just to refrain from voting, rather than voting "no". I still wouldn't be willing to vote "yes" though.

Society and its morals evolve and will continue to evolve. The bible however remains the same and just requires more and more apologetics and claims of "metaphors" and "symbolism" to justify it.

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Re: There is no rational reason to stop same sex marriage

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OnceConvinced wrote:
Word_Swordsman wrote:.
Let me dispel the possibility of God having anything to do with creating homosexuality in a person.
OnceConvinced wrote:That isn't a magic incantation you just made there. Dispelling something is going to take a lot more than just saying that a claim is wrong and then quoting a few scriptures that most Christians can't agree on and that unbelievers don't see as authorative (especially when they see what science is proving).
It doesn't matter how many Christians agree or disagree over commands in the Bible. They are still in there and quite clearly laid out for anyone capable of reading comprehension to learn what God says about some human actions.
There is more to it than reading it and comprehending it. It's also necessary to take it in context and try to understand a little about the back ground behind what is written. In the Leviticus reference, another respected Christian member of this site has already pointed out how this scripture is to be taken. As far as I can see you have not refuted his perspective on it.

God is not nor ever will be the author of confusion regardless of passions of people.
So the bible would claim, however in reality we do see instances where God has deliberately gone out of his way to confuse and to mislead. eg Creating light first before creating the light sources. Many Christians would have us believe that he created light in transit, thus only making it look as though it had travelled hundreds of thousands of years to get to us. He also made our world look as though it was 100s of thousands of years old. There are also scriptures where he sends delusions on people and also makes them believe lies. He also had me believing for over 30 years that I was a "true Christian", but according to some Christians who come through this site I never was.
Word_Swordsman wrote:
I won't rule out secular possibilities, such as genetic malfunctions, which of course can't logically be assigned to an act of God.
OnceConvinced wrote:These scriptures strongly suggest any trait we are born with, positive and negative are a result of God:

Psa 139:13
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.

Exodus 4:11
And the LORD said unto him, Who hath made man's mouth? or who maketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? have not I the LORD?

John 9: 1-3
And as Jesus passed by, he saw a man which was blind from his birth. And his disciples asked him, saying, Master, who did sin, this man, or his parents, that he was born blind? Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him.

Even if you want to ignore that last scripture there and claim for someone to be born homosexual it is a result of the sin of Adam and Eve, God allowed it to happen. It was his system that he set in place to allow people to be born with abnomalities. So no matter what way you look at it, God is still very responsible.
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God doesn't declare a sin an abomination with a mighty curse on it then turn around and create a human prone from birth to sin an abomination.
So you claim, but the scriptures I quoted tend to suggest that he does. You first have to prove that homosexuality is an abnormality or a handicap. All you can really do is quote scripture which you have interpretted to mean something, that other learned Christians on this site disagree with and have made good arguments to back up their statements.
Yes, God does allow some people to be born with physical and mental handicaps. I would agree that a person wanting to be homosexual does so sometimes from a position of mental handicap.
I'm sure that most homosexuals will claim they never chose to become a homosexual (I have debated with many homosexuals on line in the past). They claim they are tendencies they are born with. I think there is enough evidence available to show that it is genetic. It may indeed be an abnomality, but nobody has proven that either. I mean come on. Surely WS, even the thought of it must disgust you, like it does me! Can you really believe any heterosexual male could possibly even consider becoming homosexual?
But the scriptures also teach God allows some to be born with deficiencies with the aim of God getting glory through their healing. We now know people can damage their bodies through drugs and poisons, setting up heavy odds of a birth defect. God allows the sins against our bodies, we being heirs of dominion on earth, but doesn't promise all affected humans will be healed. Even Jesus failed to heal many because of unbelief.

Note that the man in your reference in John 9 was healed of his birth defect.

Ex 4:11 had to do with Moses complaining he didn't have a strong speech ability. God was simply telling Moses He could use it anyway, being creator of mouths, regardless of condition of the mouth.

Look at that Psalm in greater context. Psalm 139:13-16 "For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb. [14] I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. [15] My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. [16] Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them."

Note that the human in a womb is not a result of a direct act of creation. The fetus is made via a complex set of biological stages. However, they are guided (held) by God who doesn't recreate existing genes to assure a perfect infant. God's works are the processes He set in motion for humans to reproduce without need of creating another human.

God is not responsible for destructive behaviors in people. God tempts no person to sin. He sent His only begotten Son to die so that people could be delivered from sin and the sting of death.
God is most certainly resonsible. He set the rules in motion. He allowed sin to enter the world. He created mankind with a rebellious streak. He knew before hand what would happen. He knows the fate of every human being he allows life to. But yet he does nothing to prevent these things from happening.

Let's say he creates someone with homosexual tendencies (something he intends this person to be healed of). He knows that many of those people will never be healed of the infliction. They will never repent and never be healed. But yet he still creates them that way. They were doomed to hell the day he designed them. You may try to claim that all who Jesus intended to heal do get healed. But then that would be claiming all those who died homosexuals were homosexuals because they chose to be, but unless we are in denial, we will know that is not the case. No one chooses to be homosexual, just as no one chooses to be heterosexual.

I, like you, used to believe the same thing. That homosexuality was an abomonation. That it was a chosen life style. If anyone was born that way it was due to an abnormality. No kidding this is what I believed as a Christian. However over the last few years I have come to realise that I could not continue to close my eyes to the studies done. I could no longer ignore the claims made by homosexuals themselves, that they were born with those tendencies. After all, they should know! The only conclusion one can logically come to is that the bible is wrong to condemn it OR the bible is not being interpreted as intended.

Society and its morals evolve and will continue to evolve. The bible however remains the same and just requires more and more apologetics and claims of "metaphors" and "symbolism" to justify it.

Prayer is like rubbing an old bottle and hoping that a genie will pop out and grant you three wishes.

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OnceConvinced wrote: It's for these reasons I didn't really want to comment in the first place. I knew there would be people like TC who would feel they have the right to stand in judgement over me. I know from the past how touchy people can get when it comes to this subject. I can also understand why the other 3 or 4 people who have voted "no" don't want to comment. Why would they if they think they were gong to be attacked and insulted?
When you advocate bigotry, you should be "attacked". Non-bigots are understandably "touchy" given how many people have been beaten, killed outright or merely driven to suicide just for being gay.

So, yes, we do have the right to stand judgment over you, because you're very, very wrong. If this is taken as an insult, so be it. It's not the intent, but it's certainly a foreseeable consequence that I can live with. And if it gets me banned, who cares? I'd sooner be censored by bigots than censor myself to placate bigots.
I would be open to debating this topic if I could gaurantee people would be able to discuss this rationally. However as TC has proven, it's just not possible.
On what possible basis could you debate this? If you remember, I attempted to debate this with you initially and you were entirely unwilling. Perhaps it's because you recognize that you don't have a leg to stand on here.
If it makes TC feel any better, I think people here do have a good point that one should not act on their prejudices. If a vote came up on this topic it would be better just to refrain from voting, rather than voting "no". I still wouldn't be willing to vote "yes" though.
Refusing to vote "yes" is still an example of acting on your prejudice.

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Evales wrote:
Point 1) If biological it is something that God created and thus we should not be punished for it since it is natural.
If you know God and His Divine Plan for marriage, if you'd trace back to the beginning when man and woman were not created with the homosexual condition...and that it later due to original sin it became a deviation from the original natural created condition (which was good) of man and woman ...you'd understand to follow & live within God's divine plan and according to His Will, trace back to the beginning and observe God's plan to have a man in union with a woman. It's true there are people who are borned into the homosexual condition, but have the will to live in purity, and with God's grace, the will of their spirit overrule the passions of the flesh.
... wrote:Point 2) That being even if it is still a sin (or not biological) the people who commit acts of homosexuality are fully allowed (by God) to commit as many sins as they like. God gave us the freedom of choice to commit sins or to chose to follow him how we like.
In saying God gave us freedom of choice....well that is true...but not to commit sins without the consequences of sins. There is such a thing as bad consequences or good consequences to our actions, after all. Choose sins and evil...the consequence is death. God said it. He is after all a God of justice...and there can be no justice if there is no penalty for evil and wrong doing. Penalty for doing evil and rewards for doing good is a theme that's reiterated over and over again in God's revelations to us. Jesus even described in that place where evil doers are penalized you'll hear gnashing teeth....such is a description of the pain of penalty for sins.

Now someone who has the biological homosexual condition may not have it due to their own sins...but rather due to original sin, of which they were not a part of. And while we live our laws in according to God's laws...doesn't mean that give us an excuse to practice bigotry....that we can disagree with our homosexual brothers/sisters over whether same sex union has a place in the institution of marriage and yet can still respect and love them as God calls us to love.
... wrote:Point 3) Also since not everyone believes there is an afterlife we have no reason to stop them from committing these "sins" if they do not hurt anyone. The only person they hurt is themselves (according to theists) because they will then go to Hell, a place that they do not even believe exists.
If we vote no to same sex marriage, it's not because we want to stop anyone by design. We are just voting to what is the truth engraved in our heart. as with votes for every law that's proposed out there, whether I vote yes or no is no reason for someone who cast a different vote to violate the laws of love and respect.

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Thought Criminal wrote:Refusing to vote "yes" is still an example of acting on your prejudice.

TC
Or again, refusing to vote "yes" can be seen as an example of the courage for a man or woman to dare to do what they think and feel is the truth...despite the world tossing ridicule, name-calling, anger or even hate at them.

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