[Replying to wiploc
If you compare regular married people to those who never had sex before marriage, I'll bet the regular ones are happier.
Regular married people? So, are those of us who wait until marriage irregular? LOL! Youâ€™re funny.
Thanks. I try. But I'm also making the point that most people don't marry as virgins.
For one thing, they'll tend not to marry people they're sexually incompatible with, but virgins won't have any way to know whether they're compatible with their prospective spouses.
Ha, ha, ha . . sexual incompatibly? I love how the culture today actually believes that is a thing.
What exactly is sexual incompatibility?
What is it exactly? I have no idea exactly. Some people have been very happy with me, and I've felt like a great lover, a great person. With other people, not so much. Wouldn't you rather make love with someone you feel good about making love with?
Is one of the partners missing their genitalia?
So it's all the same to you? You would find sex equally gratifying with anyone who has junk?
When couples have marital problems, I can assure you the root cause is not sexual incompatibility, rather they are having sexual problems because of things having nothing to do with sex.
Assure away, but that's so counter-intuitive as to make it sound like you're just making stuff up.
I can go this far with you: If a couple used to have good sex together, and then sex quits being good, the real problem probably isn't the sex.
Seriously? Itâ€™s not rocket science dude. The old, â€œyou gotta test drive the car before you buy oneâ€� thought is sexist and flawed. Why? Because to even consider/view the other as an object to be â€œtestedâ€� means one is incapable of seeing the person and missing the beauty of love and marriage. I seriously donâ€™t have time to correct this mis thinking on your part.
What if your parents tried to arrange a marriage for you, and you said, "Can I at least have dinner with her; see if we enjoy each other's conversation; see how she treats the waiter; see if we like the same foods, music, politicians; see if we get along at all?" Would that mean you were missing the beauty and incapable of seeing the person?
And how is it sexist? I'd think you'd want to get to know someone before choosing him or her for your lifeboat, regardless of gender.
I can assure you being in a loving marital relationship is NOT dependent on sex prior to marriage
I can go this far with you: A lot of wonderful loving marriages result from virgins marrying.
But suppose that Sara and Joe know they enjoy each other physically but Karen and Mike have no clue. The odds of Sara and Joe having a wonderful loving marriage have to be higher than the odds of Karen and Mike achieving that.
and the fact that you think it is is part of the problem.
Be nice, be respectful.
Statistics also show that the happiest people are women whose husbands have died. Not sure what you want to make of that.
LOL! Are you referring to this study . . .
No idea. Just something I read once.
This has nothing to do with anything. The point remains in any amount of sexual intercourse there remains the possibility of conception â€“ the possibility of bringing a new human being into this world â€“ so like I said â€“ kind of a big deal!
Suppose a guy with a vasectomy has sex with a woman past menopause. Suppose two guys do it, or two women, or seven women. Suppose a woman knows that if her other forms of birth control fail, she will abort.
The fact that you adamantly claim things that are patently false makes it hard to give you the benefit of the doubt.
Itâ€™s absolutely selfish and ignorant not to recognize this fact of life.