Why Do Husbands Cheat?

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Why Do Husbands Cheat?

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1 Corinthians 7:3 - The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.⁠

The loss of sexual intimacy in a marriage is a tell tale sign of imminent disaster. Just like a normal appetite, every man and woman has a sexual appetite that must be fed. If you are not feeding your spouse’s sexual appetite, don’t think they will just starve! Once your spouse stops seeing you in a sexual way and as a sexual partner, their desire will turn towards someone else. You will be nothing more than a roommate and/or the mother of their children. ⁠

Husbands should not be made to feel like they are sexual fiends. Sex is a natural and normal expectation in a Christian marriage. It is not to be used as a bargaining tool or reward for good behavior. A man will not put his sex life on hold either. If you are constantly putting sex on the bottom of your list of priorities, this will weaken him, causing him to be defenseless against temptation when another woman offers him what you are not.⁠

The important thing to know is that every time a husband and wife deprive each other of sexual intimacy, they are opening the door to sin through temptation!⁠

Do you make sure you’ve eaten, are dressed and ready to take on the day? Do you take time out in your busy schedule to get your nails and hair done? Do you make time to ‘go out with the girls’ or ‘grab a coffee with your bestie’? Clean the house? You make time for the things that are important to you. If you don’t find time for regular sex in your marriage, it’s time to make a change before it’s too late!⁠

Order takeout, skip the dishes, send the kids to bed early, wake up earlier yourselves, cancel extra curricular activities for the family - do whatever it takes to make and maintain time for sex in your marriage. You can do without a lot of things in your life, but a sexless marriage is not one of them! Denying your spouse sexual intercourse (conjugal rights) is a sin against God’s word.⁠

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Amos Ministries wrote: Fri Apr 16, 2021 12:33 pmIf you are constantly putting sex on the bottom of your list of priorities, this will weaken him, causing him to be defenseless against temptation when another woman offers him what you are not.⁠
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Amos Ministries wrote: Fri Apr 16, 2021 12:33 pm Image

1 Corinthians 7:3 - The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.⁠
So a wife is biblically bound to providing sex to her husband even if that sex is b&d or sadism. And yes, b&d and sadism are sexual activities.

bondage and discipline
A loosely defined constellation of sexual practices which combine bondage—the use of physical restrains (e.g., ligatures, rope, etc.)—and discipline—the use of psychological restraints (e.g., humiliation and/or loss of freedom)—based on rules which, if not obeyed, result in punishment for the undesired behaviours.
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"Sadism describes sexual pleasure derived by inflicting pain, degradation, humiliation on another person or causing another person to suffer."
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And how about far less extreme sexual practices. Should a wife submit to oral or anal sex even if she hates it? How about double penetration in a three-way?



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Oh good grief! The insanity continues.

Husbands cheat because they decide to cheat. End of story.

Blaming the wife for a husbands indiscretion is the sign of a weak, pathetic husband who is not willing to be responsible for his own actions. Trying to hide under the umbrella of your holy book just makes it look even more lame.

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Amos Ministries wrote: Fri Apr 16, 2021 12:33 pm

1 Corinthians 7:3 - The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.⁠

The above scripture should not be used as a justification for adultery. Adultery is explicitly prohibited in scripture and nothing is spoken of a justifying thus act, including the denial of sexual intimacy within the marriage.


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Difflugia wrote: Fri Apr 16, 2021 1:03 pm
Amos Ministries wrote: Fri Apr 16, 2021 12:33 pmIf you are constantly putting sex on the bottom of your list of priorities, this will weaken him, causing him to be defenseless against temptation when another woman offers him what you are not.⁠
From the new Blaming the Victim Study Bible: "See What You Made Me Do?" Edition.
  • What did the Amalekite children do to make the Israelites slaughter them?
  • What's the best kind of dirt for your wife to drink when she makes you jealous?
  • When your slaves make you beat them, how can you ensure that they get up after a day or two?
  • When your children make you kill them, what kind of stones should you select?
Learn the answers to these questions and more! As an extra bonus, read the newly unearthed manuscript explaining why Agag made Samuel hew him into bits!
Giving sex whenever the spouse wants it is not an obligation, but denying sex can be a form of abuse. When it's to exert power over the spouse, it's abuse.

Actually the worst perpetrators of this form of abuse are males. Not the most numerous, but the worst examples. Women seem to do it more or less casually, but it's seldom purely spiteful and intentionally abusive. They may be holding out for a new handbag or a new car or something. I don't consider that abuse, though I still wouldn't want to be in that sort of quid-pro-quo relationship.

The Vote Trump Get Dumped movement is a good example of this form of abuse. Some spouses/girlfriends are denying sex as a way to force people to change their political opinions. You have two options here. If Trump is really at the Hitler-level of evil that would justify this, then why are you dating a Nazi? If Trump isn't so evil, then no part of this is okay. If politics are so important to you that you'd pull these dirty tactics on the one you love because winning is more important, you simply shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who disagrees with you politically. This is abuse, pure and simple.
Miles wrote: Fri Apr 16, 2021 2:03 pmAnd how about far less extreme sexual practices. Should a wife submit to oral or anal sex even if she hates it? How about double penetration in a three-way?
Two people who can't get pleasure from the same thing have no business being in a committed, exclusive relationship.

This is one of the things where you could certainly postulate a way to make it work. Taking turns, for example. This requires a level of maturity 99% of people do not have. Could it work? Sure. Hypothetically. Could they just have a sexless marriage? Okay, some people do. But even then, this type of thing and the expectations on each partner ought to be discussed before entering into a committed, exclusive relationship. Doing so requires a level of maturity maybe about 20-30% of people have.

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Amos Ministries wrote: Fri Apr 16, 2021 12:33 pm Image

1 Corinthians 7:3 - The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.⁠

The loss of sexual intimacy in a marriage is a tell tale sign of imminent disaster. Just like a normal appetite, every man and woman has a sexual appetite that must be fed. If you are not feeding your spouse’s sexual appetite, don’t think they will just starve! Once your spouse stops seeing you in a sexual way and as a sexual partner, their desire will turn towards someone else. You will be nothing more than a roommate and/or the mother of their children. ⁠

Husbands should not be made to feel like they are sexual fiends. Sex is a natural and normal expectation in a Christian marriage. It is not to be used as a bargaining tool or reward for good behavior. A man will not put his sex life on hold either. If you are constantly putting sex on the bottom of your list of priorities, this will weaken him, causing him to be defenseless against temptation when another woman offers him what you are not.⁠

The important thing to know is that every time a husband and wife deprive each other of sexual intimacy, they are opening the door to sin through temptation!⁠

Do you make sure you’ve eaten, are dressed and ready to take on the day? Do you take time out in your busy schedule to get your nails and hair done? Do you make time to ‘go out with the girls’ or ‘grab a coffee with your bestie’? Clean the house? You make time for the things that are important to you. If you don’t find time for regular sex in your marriage, it’s time to make a change before it’s too late!⁠

Order takeout, skip the dishes, send the kids to bed early, wake up earlier yourselves, cancel extra curricular activities for the family - do whatever it takes to make and maintain time for sex in your marriage. You can do without a lot of things in your life, but a sexless marriage is not one of them! Denying your spouse sexual intercourse (conjugal rights) is a sin against God’s word.⁠
There's so much wrong with this it would be funny, if it wasn't so sad.
This is the kind of extremism beliefs tend to breed when said belief lacks any tactile truth.
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I agree. While there is a grain of truth in what they propagandize, it's so one - sided. There's no mention of the husband having to keep his wife happy in any respect, let alone sexually. Just what would these peddlers of religious tracts say if it was suggested that if the man can't come across when she's in the mood, the wife is entitled to find someone who can, and the husband should bring tea and cakes while they're at it and say "Thanks dude, I just couldn't keep up".

Fair's fair, but I'm willing to bet that this is something that never occurs to these people.

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I’ve never understood our cultural need to always go to extremes. Are we genuinely incapable of moderation in our thoughts?

Is a wife responsible for her husband cheating?
No, a man is responsible for his own actions.

Does a wife’s attitude about sexuality foster either a healthy or unhealthy marriage?
Yes, that is a natural part of marriage; what the Bible calls being “one flesh.”

Should a wife meet the sexual needs of her husband?
Yes, if she care about her husband then she should care that his needs are met.

Does this means sex any time and any way that the man desires it?
No, these are acts of affection, not slavery.

Either extreme is going to be unhealthy. Paul was advocating mutual love and respect, not coercion.
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Perhaps for the same reason Wives Cheat?


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