what is the difference between love and sex

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thomasdixon wrote: Thu Feb 18, 2021 5:11 pm
No, I was/am looking for an honest answer which you cannot provide, honesty does not seem to be your best atribute
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Love cares about others sex cares about self.

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Grunt0311 wrote: Thu Nov 25, 2021 10:13 pm Love cares about others sex cares about self.
Yet sex can be an expression of love, so this answers seems to lack that understanding, because it is too 'one or the other' but not both.

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William wrote: Thu Nov 25, 2021 10:40 pm
Grunt0311 wrote: Thu Nov 25, 2021 10:13 pm Love cares about others sex cares about self.
Yet sex can be an expression of love, so this answers seems to lack that understanding, because it is too 'one or the other' but not both.
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Purple Knight wrote: Thu Feb 18, 2021 7:39 pm Not a good question to ask me, since what most people call lust, I call love.

And what most people call love, I call friendship.

To me, love is inseparable from a desire to mate and reproduce.
Would one then say, correctly, you don't love your parents, you like them, surely not lust? Just a friendship with them?

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nobspeople wrote: Fri Dec 03, 2021 10:29 amWould one then say, correctly, you don't love your parents, you like them, surely not lust? Just a friendship with them?
Assuming they'd been nice to me, I'd still have loved them since they could 1) aid my survival to the point I can reproduce and 2) cut out the middle-man and make more of me themselves by giving me siblings. There's still that reproductive aspect.

I don't think love can be uncoupled from reproduction. Perhaps I misspoke a bit and now I have to backpedal because I don't think this absolutely has to mean mating.

But if I picture myself as an elderly person enjoying the company of another elderly person of the opposite sex who was once capable of reproducing and now no longer, that to me is mostly friendship, not love.

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Purple Knight wrote: Thu Feb 18, 2021 7:39 pm To me, love is inseparable from a desire to mate and reproduce.
Then what should we think of those who claim to love their parents, or worse yet, to love their children?


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Miles wrote: Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:52 pm
Purple Knight wrote: Thu Feb 18, 2021 7:39 pm To me, love is inseparable from a desire to mate and reproduce.
Then what should we think of those who claim to love their parents, or worse yet, to love their children?


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There are many definitions of love. A rather strong one is "an unconditional positive regard." Love for parents and children would certainly qualify. As you have pointed out, a desire to mate and reproduce with them doesn't.


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Tcg wrote: Sat Dec 04, 2021 1:31 am
Miles wrote: Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:52 pm
Purple Knight wrote: Thu Feb 18, 2021 7:39 pm To me, love is inseparable from a desire to mate and reproduce.
Then what should we think of those who claim to love their parents, or worse yet, to love their children?
There are many definitions of love.
Indeed there are, including Purple Knight's above.



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