Should people "shack-up" before marriage?

[Nickman]

I personally think that when two adults shack-up prior to marriage, they have a better chance of staying married and avoid divorce. This I have concluded from my own logic and experience. If we get to know a person prior to marriage on that level we are able to make a better decision about whether or not we can be married to that person. If we don't shack-up we won't be able to see how that person truly is in that setting. Christians tend to be against shacking-up which I feel has led to the statistics showing that they are more susceptible to divorce than atheists who do tend to shack-up.

What do you say? Should we shack up? Is it beneficial? If not why not?

P.S. Just because "god said so" is not a good answer. Please provide why it is harmful or wrong and the potential problem it could cause.

[Davidjayjordan]

I personally think that when two adults shack-up prior to marriage, they have a better chance of staying married and avoid divorce. This I have concluded from my own logic and experience. If we get to know a person prior to marriage on that level we are able to make a better decision about whether or not we can be married to that person. If we don't shack-up we won't be able to see how that person truly is in that setting. Christians tend to be against shacking-up which I feel has led to the statistics showing that they are more susceptible to divorce than atheists who do tend to shack-up.

What do you say? Should we shack up? Is it beneficial? If not why not?

P.S. Just because "god said so" is not a good answer. Please provide why it is harmful or wrong and the potential problem it could cause.

Sure shack up, communicate, agree, be responsible, and above all take care of what you might produce in your shack. Thats surely what the Lord loves wants and expects. Long live love and responsibility and NEW~LIFE.

Isn;t the Lord good ?

Your response is great IMO. However, I don't understand why you include all the 'Lord' stuff. Seems irrelevant, and comes across like having to say 'peace be upon him' after uttering the name Mohammed.

Sure shack up, communicate, agree, be responsible, and above all take care of what you might produce in your shack.

This is good IMO.

Thats surely what the Lord loves wants and expects. Long live love and responsibility and NEW~LIFE.

Isn;t the Lord good ?

This strikes me as a bit odd and makes me think you would make a great Muslim. I'm just not sure what it has to do with the point you made.

Nah, lived in Muslim territories in Christian countries though....... normal people IMO, and wanting love and needing love just the same as us all.....

But me and wife and ALL are just normal Christians, not church people, just followers of the loving sexy Lord, just as His early disciples were.

Cant give you a hyperlink, sorry

[Youkilledkenny]

[Replying to post 1 by Nickman]

It depends on the people. I've heard of studies that show it's not beneficial, though I haven't seen the studies and, to be honest, they would be quite old at this point. As a general rule, it makes more sense to live together first before there is any legal attachment that comes with marriage.
But for some people, it might not be a good idea.
We can't make blanket statement with any legitimacy for every human as they are too varied.

[Clownboat]

I personally think that when two adults shack-up prior to marriage, they have a better chance of staying married and avoid divorce. This I have concluded from my own logic and experience. If we get to know a person prior to marriage on that level we are able to make a better decision about whether or not we can be married to that person. If we don't shack-up we won't be able to see how that person truly is in that setting. Christians tend to be against shacking-up which I feel has led to the statistics showing that they are more susceptible to divorce than atheists who do tend to shack-up.

What do you say? Should we shack up? Is it beneficial? If not why not?

P.S. Just because "god said so" is not a good answer. Please provide why it is harmful or wrong and the potential problem it could cause.

Sure shack up, communicate, agree, be responsible, and above all take care of what you might produce in your shack. Thats surely what the Lord loves wants and expects. Long live love and responsibility and NEW~LIFE.

Isn;t the Lord good ?

Your response is great IMO. However, I don't understand why you include all the 'Lord' stuff. Seems irrelevant, and comes across like having to say 'peace be upon him' after uttering the name Mohammed.

Sure shack up, communicate, agree, be responsible, and above all take care of what you might produce in your shack.

This is good IMO.

Thats surely what the Lord loves wants and expects. Long live love and responsibility and NEW~LIFE.

Isn;t the Lord good ?

This strikes me as a bit odd and makes me think you would make a great Muslim. I'm just not sure what it has to do with the point you made.

Nah, lived in Muslim territories in Christian countries though....... normal people IMO, and wanting love and needing love just the same as us all.....

But me and wife and ALL are just normal Christians, not church people, just followers of the loving sexy Lord, just as His early disciples were.

Cant give you a hyperlink, sorry

I guess you don't know why you included all the 'Lord' stuff either. Like I said, it seemed like a sub-conscience addition (like "peace be upon him").

No matter though, I was just curious because I didn't see how it fit in with the first part of your post.