(Note: If these are straw-men, then blame resides with the apologists who have articulated these perspectives and experiences to me, and I'm not insisting they represent the perspectives or experiences of all apologists.)
- Some apologists suggest they are incapable of doing anything right in the eyes of their god.
- Anyone's effort to improve themselves on their own is often met with skepticism, critique, and a general sense that people could never be good enough without guidance from the apologist's god.
- Some apologists suggest that they are not comfortable expressing disagreement or a difference of opinion with their god, even if they are confident in the accuracy of their perspective.
- In situations where some apologists do not exactly know how their god feels about something, they exhibit anxiety over the possibility of having the wrong answer.
- Some apologists recommend that the “walking on eggshells” feeling with their god is a justifiable warning against disobedience.
- When some apologists describe moments from their past when they've expressed disagreement with their god's opinion on an issue, it is their current perspective that they were being overly sensitive at the time and suggest their god would have been justified for being angry with them.
- Some apologists suggest that they are emotionally, morally, and intellectually inferior to their god.
- Some apologists imply that their own thoughts, feelings, or perspectives on an issue should be suppressed to prioritize their god's perspective instead.
- Some apologists claim they could never “measure up” to the standards required by their god and must seek forgiveness for being inherently and irreversibly flawed.
- Some apologists indicate that they embrace a sense of humility and acknowledge feelings of failure, remorse, and confusion at their inability to meet their god's standards.
- According to some apologists, they could never be on “equal footing” in a relationship with their god and should always seek their god's mercy.
- Some apologists derive justifications for their god's violent behavior that are rooted in what they claim is the “righteousness” of their god.
- When their god is given credit for actions that result in unnecessary or excessive harm to others, some apologists suggest that they cannot judge their god based on their own inferior understanding.
- Some apologists routinely supply justifications for their god's behavior that they repeat for themselves for actions they would otherwise condemn.
- Some apologists claim they just accept or justify their god's violent behavior rather than confront him about it.
- Some apologists attempt to minimize their god's violent behavior, thus removing the need to excuse it.
Could those perspectives be indicators of an abusive relationship or are the similarities just coincidence?