AgnosticBoy wrote: ↑Tue Jun 09, 2020 10:17 pm
otseng wrote: ↑Mon Jun 08, 2020 7:42 pm
A peaceful protest is scheduled for 1 p.m. Tuesday outside the Johns Creek Police Department.
Are we able to have any honest discussion about race and is anyone really free to share their thoughts without someone getting offended?
In my opinion we can have honest discussion but no one cares to. You can see examples of that even on this site. Such is politics.
Dear @AgnosticBoy
The honest discussion starts with people who treat each other equally regardless of creed, bias or beliefs.
Then those people can bring together their friends who aren't so easily able to work with the opposite biases that offend them.
Last, the people with absolutely ZERO tolerance for the opposing views.
By organizing HONESTLY into tiers, from the all inclusive, to the partially inclusive to the mutually exclusive,
that's the FIRST STEP.
Then ACCEPTING the fact that there are people in EACH GROUP and quit blaming each other for the fact groups blame each other.
Of course they do!
For each person on the far left REFUSING to give an inch to those on the far right,
there are equal forces on the right seeing the left that way. They reinforce each other.
Let's ACCEPT that.
It is DAMAGING, but they both do it to each other.
Let's not let THAT affect the people in the middle who are CONDITIONAL
in what it would take for them to move toward full inclusion unconditionally.
We can honestly separate these different levels.
And let the people most inclusive and unconditional manage the
communications, where everyone can give their input and objections
among the group they feel comfortable sharing with. And separate
the incompatible groups, while the ones in the middle work out
reforms and address the objections (coming from the clashing groups)
so they learn to communicate, and resolve these problems effectively.
Any skilled CONFLICT RESOLUTION program can facilitate between
the groups and start organizing which leaders or volunteers can
work with the rest of their groups members.
If they can't find a local dispute resolution program, or a school
or college that has clinics in this, there are national nonprofits that can help.
Just find a forum format that works for a few people on both sides,
set up a process, and invite the rest in according to which groups they feel safe with.
Don't mix the two extremes, but let them participate within safe groups
so their objections can still be documented and presented without inciting others.
@otseng and @koko
if you are with any groups that have contacts with active leaders or members on
either side of these protests, can I work with you to set up a support process
to refer resources to cities or community groups wanting help to facilitate?
* Alternative Dispute Resolution
* Nonviolent Communication
* Center for the Healing of Racism
www.centerhealingracism.org
* Alternative to Violence Project
www.avpusa.org
* Rachel's Challenge
www.rachelschallenge.org
Here's an example from CHR on teaching and moderating forums through the dialogue process
while keeping it safe from attacks, even when discussing sensitive race issues and experiences for healing:
www.isocracytx.net/hp-org/CHRguide.html
GUIDELINES FOR SHARING
We have come together to try to learn about the disease of racism and promote a healing process.
Sharing is voluntary.
We want to create a safe, loving and respectful atmosphere.
Sharing is about one's own feelings, experiences, perceptions, etc.
We are not always going to agree or see everything the same way and that's O.K.
Each person has a right to and responsibility for his or her own feelings, thoughts, and beliefs.
It is important to avoid criticism or judgement about another person's sharing, point of view, and/or feelings.
Avoid getting tied up in debate and argument. It rarely changes anything or anyone and tends to ultimately inhibit the sharing.
We can only change ourselves. Our change and growth may, however, inspire someone else.
Refrain from singling out any individual as "representing" his or her group or issue.
It is important to give full attention to whomever is talking.
Feelings are important.
We will surely make mistakes in our efforts, but mistakes are occasions for learning and forgiving.
We may laugh and cry together, share pain, joy, fear, or anger.
Hopefully we will leave these meetings with a deeper understanding and a renewed hope for the future of humanity.