Old thread, I know, but I couldn't resist.
I'm glad that I was a Christian for the time that I was, because I did learn how to cultivate my spirituality and several other valuable tools for growth. A difficult time in my life was made easier because I believed I had Jesus to rely on and guide me when things became rough.
There was a point, however, when my gut and my Bible told me two different things concerning the issue of dating a non-believer. I struggled for quite some time, not wanting to be unequally yoked and whatnot, but I knew the relationship could be a very positive thing: we had similar temperaments and shared a common interest in religion, though he was a dissatisfied Catholic and I was the evangelical Christian trying to convert him.
I went with my gut, and promptly found myself in a cloud of spiritual confusion. While I absolutely did not regret my choice to become "yoked" to this unbeliever, and was committed to staying with him, I knew my beliefs would have to change or I would be forever miserable. I didn't want to just up and go become Buddhist, though. If I was going to desert the faith, I had to do it properly: by finding something genuinely more convincing, or not leaving at all. God was still a very real, flesh-and-blood person in my mind, one that I couldn't just wave my hand and have disappear.
After several years of reading books and articles, I finally stumbled upon one that cracked the whole system for me.
In chapter seven of the book of Isaiah, King Ahaz of Judah is being attacked by the kings of Israel and Aram. God speaks to the resident prophet, Isaiah, to go and comfort the King with the knowledge that all would be well. Ahaz, of course, doesn’t believe him. After all, his city is surrounded! His troops are dying! His people are frantic! What do you mean, everything is going to be fine? Ha! Speaking on God’s behalf, Isaiah prods the distraught King to pick a sign, any sign, to reassure him that God truly means what he says. Ahaz is struck by a sudden sense of piety and refuses, claiming he will not test his god. This irritates Isaiah, who snaps at the King,
"Hear now, you house of David! Is it not enough to try the patience of men? Will you try the patience of my God also? 14 Therefore the Lord himself will give you [c] a sign: The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and [d] will call him Immanuel. [e] 15 He will eat curds and honey when he knows enough to reject the wrong and choose the right. 16 But before the boy knows enough to reject the wrong and choose the right, the land of the two kings you dread will be laid waste." Isaiah 14:13-16
When I read this, everything suddenly fit. While this passage is often quoted as a prophesy regarding the future Messiah, I realized that this passage has absolutely nothing to do with any Messiah whatsoever! The oft-quoted phrase regarding the apparently miraculous event of a virgin conceiving a child is no different than passages which claim that those who mourn will laugh, or those who hunger will eat: it simply means that a condition which is now present will be solved or reversed. The way to make a virgin conceive is quite obvious, and in no way implies that some sort of miracle must occur. By the time a virgin (or young woman -- another meaning of the original Hebrew word) who is not yet pregnant today has a son who is old enough to eat semi-solid foods and make basic decisions regarding right and wrong, the two kings who are terrorizing Judah will no longer be a problem for Ahaz.
And this made sense! After all, what kind of logic would it be for Isaiah to approach a terrified King Ahaz and tell him, fear not, these two kings will not destroy Judah, and here’s how you’ll know – seven hundred years from now, a virgin will get pregnant without ever touching a man! There, now doesn’t that make you feel better? Let’s go out and kick some Israelite toosh!
Anyway, that's my (long) story. It's been years since then, and I've never regretted my choice to leave Christianity.
Oh, and that "unbeliever" and I are still together.
