Danmark:
"This is your interpretation"
Well, yes, mine -- and a lot of other folks down through the centuries. It's the correct one.
"...and it strikes me as terribly strained if not absurd."
Okay, well, that's too bad, but okay.
"Certainly there may be a reference to Daniel..."
There is; Jesus made direct references to many Old Testament passages. This is one of them. We have to let Scripture interpret Scripture; God is His own arbiter. And that's what I'm doing here, citing Daniel 7 and comparing Matthew's account of this event with Mark's and Luke's. It's really not as hard as you seem to want to make it out to be. It's very clear.
"...but are you claiming that Jesus never referred to himself as 'the Son of Man?'"
Absolutely not. I'm merely saying, based on Scripture, that you -- and again, you are not alone -- misunderstand what Jesus is talking about here when He speaks of the
coming of the Son of Man.
"In any event neither he nor Daniel returned in the clouds and there has been no 'tribulation' preceding that return."
LOL! Daniel was recounting a dream, a vision, where he saw certain things, namely, the coming of the Lord and His kingdom. Okay, follow me here:
1.) As you might know, Jesus said the kingdom is here now -- it had come with Him; He had brought it (Matthew 3:2, 4:7; Mark 1:15). This is what Daniel's vision was about: the coming -- the incarnation of Jesus -- His birth, actually.
2.) But not everyone who was alive at the time of Jesus's birth actually saw the coming of the kingdom in Jesus. Only a few did, and ever since then, that number has been growing. And that was the situation at the time of Jesus's comments to His disciples in Matthew 16, Mark 9, and Luke 9... there were a great many folks who had not yet seen the coming of the Son of Man, or his Kingdom. There would be many -- but not all -- who would, before they tasted death.
3.) Jesus, Danmark, was talking about SALVATION, which comes to many (but not all) during their lifetimes.
4.) This conversation immediately follows Peter's confession of Christ, which Jesus said was revealed to Him not by flesh and blood, but by God the Father. This is a very logical next step in the conversation, because this is how salvation occurs; salvation is of the Lord.
An aside:
It was the same then, and it is the same now, even for you and me. That's why we can say what Jesus was saying then is just as relevant for us now as it was for them then.
5. Thus, Jesus's comment in Matthew 16:28 that "there are some who are standing here..." -- even though he is talking to his disciples only, He is referring to the many others who are in the vicinity (some, but not all) -- "...who will not taste death..." (die) "...until they see the Son of Man coming in His kingdom" (ARE SAVED -- are given by God faith and have their eyes opened and come to repentance and belief in Jesus, the Son of Man).
"It is failed apocalyptic prophesy, one of many."
Nope. Not in any way. It's not an apocalyptic prophecy in any way.
"Only with an imminent apocalypse do the crazy admonitions to not marry, not have sex, giving away all of one's property, and abandoning one's family and all worldly affairs make the slightest sense."
Jesus didn't say any of that in the light you are trying to cast them in. In all these things, He's just saying, basically, "Don't sin." Not that any one of those things (sex, property, family, worldly affairs) are sin in and of themselves... But putting any one of those things before God is. "Seek first the kingdom of God."
See, it's not "strained" or "absurd" in any sense. Not to compare myself with Jesus at all, but in His words, he who has ears to hear, let him hear.