Marriage at very young age

[mms20102]

Marriage at the age of 10 11 and 12 was the habit of the 11th up to 17th century what do you think about it

[Neatras]

No bueno. Most (if not all) cases involve individuals who are developmentally immature and not ready to take on the roles assigned to marriage.

We're in a much better position to make these decisions; the emotional maturity that should be prescribed to any seeking marriage is something that is most important to ingrain in youths.

[bluethread]

No bueno. Most (if not all) cases involve individuals who are developmentally immature and not ready to take on the roles assigned to marriage.

We're in a much better position to make these decisions; the emotional maturity that should be prescribed to any seeking marriage is something that is most important to ingrain in youths.

What would be better would be for us to show them by example. The current emphasis one personal pleasure and helicopter parenting just reinforces the childish idea that there is no need to be concerned about acting responsibly, but one can expect that one will be bailed out if anything goes wrong.

[Neatras]

[Replying to post 3 by bluethread]

By "example" are you saying to allow child marriages?

[mms20102]

[Replying to post 4 by Neatras]
we are not saying that we should allow it but there is a difference in time at the old ages young boys governed and led armies do you think a boy from nowadays can do the same ?

[Neatras]

[Replying to post 5 by mms20102]

I believe the majority of children in the modern era would make more effective generals, given the correct training regimen. That is, they are educated and capable of using critical thinking in greater degree than children in history. They would undoubtedly perform more effectively if they were thrust into similar conditions from where they are now.

However, they should not do this, because that is barbaric.

[OnceConvinced]

Marriage at the age of 10 11 and 12 was the habit of the 11th up to 17th century what do you think about it

As you are asking what we think, I will say that I think that back in those days, it was because men were fueled by lust and thought nothing of the age or the sexual maturity of the people they wanted to have sex with. The girls they married were little more than sex slaves, having to obey the commands of their husbands.

These days we don't let people get away with that sort of thing... at least in civilised society. These days we understand that children that young are not emotionally or sexually mature enough be be married off. We understand that marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership, not one person dictating to the other as it was so often the case back then.

[mms20102]

[Replying to post 7 by OnceConvinced]

sex slaves ! really I mean you say that the all marriage at that time was slavery ! In my opinion that is totally not true I mean they never marry a girl unless she can be responsible for a child at that time girls were getting mature faster and to protect themselves from adultery the made marriage at young age like 14 old boy can marry 12 old girl and in fact I can say many many many girls had sex before the legal age don't you think if we could lower the limit we could reduce the number of sons and daughters with no parents ?

[Neatras]

[Replying to post 8 by mms20102]

Lowering the legal age below 16/18 would only put the family in more financial jeopardy. You are putting children in even worse household conditions, because you are encouraging more pregnancies in this way. Bad idea.

[mms20102]

[Replying to post 9 by Neatras]

so you accept adultery and refuse marriage ?!