Marriage at very young age

[mms20102]

Marriage at the age of 10 11 and 12 was the habit of the 11th up to 17th century what do you think about it

[Neatras]

[Replying to post 10 by mms20102]

I reject adultery and reject underaged marriage. Keeping the age of consent laws at 16 or 18 makes it less likely for teen pregnancies to occur, though it doesn't erase the risk. I want to minimize the risk by keeping the required age for marriage above 15, for goodness' sake. Making it possible for people as young as 12 to marry AND HAVE KIDS will create very unhealthy environments for the children, AND the parents who are STILL CHILDREN.

[mms20102]

[Replying to post 11 by Neatras]

but you said that children are more capable than before and by all means you totally know that girls actually have sex at the age of 13 why we don't contain the situation ?

[bluethread]

[Replying to post 3 by bluethread]

By "example" are you saying to allow child marriages?

No, by adults modeling responsible sexual behavior in committed relationships. Parents that are age appropriately honest about the exchange of bodily fluids. Not in "the talk" but along with the other factors in a relationship communicated casually as one encounters real life situations. Such a child, would have a realistic view of marriage and not view it in a romantic/hedonist fashion, and would be less likely to get involved in a relationship or get married before they are prepared.

[Neatras]

[Replying to post 12 by mms20102]

Hold the phone, you are not going to pull a fast one on me. When you discussed the capabilities of children, you were discussing the potency of having a young man lead the military as a GENERAL. That is unrelated to marital affairs. The ability of any individual to conduct tactical exercises and to lead others can be instilled by a variety of means, not least of which being rigorous education, something that can be tapped into in the modern age.

Regardless of the military preparedness of children (which I still argue is better now than in the past, regardless of how barbaric it is to have children in a military setting), children SHOULD NOT BE GETTING MARRIED.

What you did was dishonest, trying to trap me in a statement I didn't make.

[mms20102]

[Replying to Neatras]

I didn't trap you in fact any child change from the word child to mature after he gets adult physically so I'm not saying at at point to allow children to get married .. referring back to youe words if a some one can lead army can't he lead his own house ! seriously
again do you prfer adultery to marriage ?

[Neatras]

[Replying to post 15 by mms20102]

Your reasoning is twisted. I've already stated that children SHOULD NOT go into the military until they're grown up, and children SHOULD NOT get married until they're grown up. I've already stated that I do not support adultery or underaged marriage.

[mms20102]

[Replying to post 16 by Neatras]

again a 12 years old girl is no child any more ! she changed to the term teen !

Ok so if adultery is already there and I'm sure you know much about it more than me since I'm in conservative society how can you solve it ?

[OnceConvinced]

[Replying to post 7 by OnceConvinced]

sex slaves ! really I mean you say that the all marriage at that time was slavery !

An adult marrying a child. There is no equality there. The child will always be at the mercy of the adult. They will have been trained to obey the adult as a child and will continue to do so.

In my opinion that is totally not true I mean they never marry a girl unless she can be responsible for a child

They would be forced to be responsible for a child.

at that time girls were getting mature faster

Twelve years old is not mature enough.

and to protect themselves from adultery

Adultery can only take place once one is married. Perhaps nobody should ever get married, then there will never be a adultery. Nobody would ever have to worry about committing it.

the made marriage at young age like 14 old boy can marry 12 old girl

Neither are mature or adult enough to make that decision. Children that age are not wise enough to be able to enter into a marriage.

and in fact I can say many many many girls had sex before the legal age

That is no reason for them to get married.

don't you think if we could lower the limit we could reduce the number of sons and daughters with no parents ?

Married people also have unwanted babies. Just because one gets married is no guarantee they won't have unwanted pregnancies. Marriage is no guarantee the child is going to get properly looked after or loved.

I have seen unwed mothers who are fantastic parents. They didn't need to be married to be fantastic mothers. On the other hand I have seen married couples who are absolutely terrible parents. Marriage is not the answer to good parenting.

No child should be getting married enough until they are mature enough to understand what they're getting into.

[OnceConvinced]

[Replying to post 16 by Neatras]

again a 12 years old girl is no child any more ! she changed to the term teen !

have you ever met a 12 year old? They are still children. I have lived in the same house as a 12 year old. They are children. Just because their bodies are developing does not make them adults. Their minds and brains are still that of children.

Ok so if adultery is already there and I'm sure you know much about it more than me since I'm in conservative society how can you solve it ?

Do you know what adultery is? You can only commit adultery if you are married. Single people cannot commit adultery.

[OnceConvinced]

[Replying to post 8 by mms20102]

Lowering the legal age below 16/18 would only put the family in more financial jeopardy. You are putting children in even worse household conditions, because you are encouraging more pregnancies in this way. Bad idea.

Exactly! Encouraging children to get married would have them being pushed into motherhood and fatherhood a lot sooner. You would have children parenting children.

Bad idea.