Having troubles?

[methylatedghosts]

Hello to everyone. I thought I'd start up a thread basically so everyone can post here about any troubles or issues they may be having, be this in relationships, study, daily dramas feeling a bit depressed, or just life in general. ANYTHING. Even if you may just like to vent, and have nowhere else to go.

Here we can help each other from many different perspectives on lifes problems. I think that getting different perspectives on the same issue will help you make the choice that you feel right with, and others can let you know of things you may not have thought about. We all have something to offer, so even if you don't feel what you advise is as good as it can be, it may let others think more about it.

Let your troubles flow.........................................

[Arbela]

Some marriages that started by falling in love, end up with unconditional love. It isn't easy, and does require work, at least in the beginning. It requires alot of communication, and knowing where each other stands. It requires an openness and a letting go of each other. After the work part, it becomes second nature to you, and it becomes very easy. Some people though, can't deal with it, because they are still looking for the rose tinted glasses that they left behind. If all you want is butterflies in your stomach, then you will always be looking.

Theres my take on it.

I really enjoyed reading your thoughts on this.

I've read that even the best of marriages are still "conditional," (in other words, without the basics like respect and honesty, even true love doesn't have a chance). But you've definitely indentified that common path most good marriages take ~ romantic, "crush" love to mature, enduring love.

[Arbela]

Some marriages that started by falling in love, end up with unconditional love. It isn't easy, and does require work, at least in the beginning. It requires alot of communication, and knowing where each other stands. It requires an openness and a letting go of each other. After the work part, it becomes second nature to you, and it becomes very easy. Some people though, can't deal with it, because they are still looking for the rose tinted glasses that they left behind. If all you want is butterflies in your stomach, then you will always be looking.

Theres my take on it.

I really enjoyed reading your thoughts on this.

I've read that even the best of marriages are still "conditional," (in other words, without the basics like respect and honesty, even true love doesn't have a chance). But you've definitely indentified that common path most good marriages take ~ romantic, "crush" love to mature, enduring love.

[methylatedghosts]

I really enjoyed reading your thoughts on this.

I've read that even the best of marriages are still "conditional," (in other words, without the basics like respect and honesty, even true love doesn't have a chance). But you've definitely indentified that common path most good marriages take ~ romantic, "crush" love to mature, enduring love.

Yeah, pretty much. Although some find it harder than others to move from "crush" to unconditional.

Some even start at unconditional

Some start with one having unconditional, and the other having "crush". This makes it easier for the one that has "crush" to move to unconditional

EDIT:

There's a great book that talks about this:

The Road Less Travelled - A new psychology of love, traditional values and spiritual growth by M. Scott Peck. You might like to check it out.

[topaz]