Preaching at funerals

[nobspeople]

I've lost many family members over the past few years. Sunday, my aunt drowned in a pond after falling through the ice, they think, to save her dog, this past Sunday.
So I've been to many services and will be going to one more this week once arrangements are finalized.

In the past services, the preacher 'doing' the service always fell into the 'are you saved?/do you know jesus as your savior' mumbo jumbo.
All people considered themselves 'christian', though none were actively practicing.
I found it offensive, as a memorial/funeral service (at the funeral home not the grave site) is highly out of place and distasteful as, from what I know, non of the dead family members asked for this to happen.

For discussion:
Do you think it appropriate for a preacher to 'preach' salvation at one's funeral service?
If you've experienced this before, was it offensive and or out of place, or were you fine with it?

[nobspeople]

[Replying to JehovahsWitness in post #19]

Are you suggesting it is problematic to be exposed to views that one does not share? Are you saying people would rather not listen to differing views?

Depends on the views and people in question I suspect, but generally no. I'm saying many attendees potentially have differing views and that, too, could (should?), in some fashion, play into the scenario.

I dont voluntarily place myself into situations that are to me... distastful.

Personally, if it were a friend or loved one, I'd 'suck it up' and attend - which I have in the past, even though some of the things discussed were distasteful. I suppose, as much as I don't like it, I humble myself enough to deal with it instead of avoiding it - I'm not that delicate.

[nobspeople]

I wonder if a christian would think it weird if preaching WASN'T at a memorial service...?

I just find the notion of proselytising at such events somewhat offensive. Not unlike if a car salesman got up and offered special bargains to friends of the deceased.

Agreed.

I attended the memorial service for my aunt Saturday morning. There was this kind of 'talk' but it was very minor. While I rolled my eyes internally, it wasn't as 'in your face' as some others I've been to in the past decade or so.

[JehovahsWitness]

I dont voluntarily place myself into situations that are to me... distastful.

Personally, if it were a friend or loved one, I'd 'suck it up' and attend ....

I see ...

... to me, being 'preached at' at such a time was distasteful.

[nobspeople]

I dont voluntarily place myself into situations that are to me... distastful.

Personally, if it were a friend or loved one, I'd 'suck it up' and attend ....

I see ...

... to me, being 'preached at' at such a time was distasteful.

Exactly. I didn't complain and let it happen taking no issues with it at the time, even though I found it distasteful.
I also humbly attended memorials of those I knew and loved that were outside my religious convictions:
"I dont voluntarily place myself into situations that are to me... distastful."

[JehovahsWitness]

I didn't complain ....

You didnt complain then

I'd 'suck it up' ....

... to me, being 'preached at' at such a time was distasteful.

.... and what about now? . Unless you're saying you find flies tasteful you are now complaining.

[nobspeople]

[Replying to JehovahsWitness in post #25]

You didnt complain then

Correct. That would be uncouth, would it not? 'Sucking it up' doesn't mean one can't be unhappy about something or find it distasteful. This isn't a perfect world, my friend.

.... and what about now?

I find it just as distasteful then as now, thanks for asking.

Or are you saying that you find flies particularly tasteful?

They can 'bug' me.

Thanks for your 'participation' in the thread!

[JehovahsWitness]

Thanks for your 'participation' in the thread!

You are most welcome, happy to; I hope your complaining here has bought you some relief. If there is nothing else you would like to ask me, I will wish you a most fabulous week,



JW

[nobspeople]

Thanks for your 'participation' in the thread!

You are most welcome, happy to; I hope your complaining here has bought you some relief. If there is nothing else you would like to ask me, I will wish you a most fabulous week,



JW

I'm sorry that you resort to uncivil and sarcastic commentary when someone is asking a question or for opinions as complaining, especially since the issue at hand didn't pertain to you or your belief system. It's noted that you offered no sincerity as others did. Not that it was necessary, but telling of one's agenda, as is sarcastic and uncivil commentary. Especially when one has lost a loved one recently.
Odd.
It makes me wonder if jesus would have replied accordingly.

[otseng]

I hope your complaining here has bought you some relief.

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[JehovahsWitness]

Personally, if it were a friend or loved one, I'd 'suck it up' and attend...

Well thank you for sharing your personal opinion. I have enjoyed sharing my own; I do apologie if I have caused any offense, that was not my intention.

Anyway as I said ...

I personally do not attend religious services that are not my own

Does this mean you wouldn't go to a funeral service of someone you're friends with if that person has a different religious view and, likely, a different memorial service?

Yes, that is correct.

Well, I think that just about covers everything there is to say on the topic, do you have anything else hou would like me to clarify for hou? If not ... my work here is done.

Please have a most excellent and love filled day,



JW




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